Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us And How to Let It Go

Over 25,000 copies sold. Foreword Reviews 2012 Book of the Year Award Finalist. The harder you try to control everything, the more out of control life can feel. At work, they oversee every detail and struggle to delegate. At home, they correct, try to fix, and improve everyone around them. In love and romance, they obsess over finding the "right" person. Then, they criticize their lover or spouse for doing everything wrong. Everyone knows the type: micromanagers, perfectionists, nitpickers, and domestic despots. Most people recognize controlling behavior in others. Few see it clearly in themselves. In Losing Control, Finding Serenity, bestselling author Daniel A. Miller reveals how the need to control—often rooted in fear, anxiety, and insecurity—can erode trust, strain relationships, and create stress. Drawing on psychological insight, spiritual wisdom, and candid real-life stories, Miller guides readers through an honest examination of their control patterns —subtle and overt—from micromanaging and perfectionism, to manipulation and withdrawal. More importantly, he shows how to break free. You will learn how to: *Reduce the control triggers of fear, anger, and resentment *Delegate effectively and build trust at work *Create healthier, more respectful family dynamics *Strengthen romantic relationships by accepting rather than correcting *Respond to adversity with calm instead of force *Expand your creative horizons, and *Replace anxiety-driven control with inner peace and serenity Letting go does not mean giving up your needs and values. It means releasing the illusion that you can force life to conform to your expectations. Discover howlosing control really means gainingcontrol! (Readers interested in continuing this journey may also explore Daniel A. Miller’s later works, The Gifts of Acceptance and The Way of the Wave)